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Every positive change—every jump to a higher level of energy and awareness—involves a rite of passage. Each time to ascend to a higher rung on the ladder of personal evolution, we must go through a period of discomfort, of initiation. I have never found an exception.
~ Dan Millman~
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A few years ago I was doing a lot of training programs within industry and with people from all walks of life.

I always enjoy working with people and meeting new people especially when I am immersed in facilitating training programs.  I have learned through many experiences to expect the unexpected when you least expect it, and this situation certainly fit into that category.

A young lady walked up to me and was quite excited about meeting me.  She stated that she had heard many good things about me, that I was very wise, and she knew that I had all of the answers that she was looking for her in life!

At that point I felt extremely uncomfortable and uneasy, so I began to look for the reasons that I would be experiencing these feelings.  When I am looking for information I always end up asking questions of myself, so I started my search through asking me questions!

  • Where would this person get this information from?
  • I’m wise, what have I done to make someone believe that I am wise?
  • I have all of the answers to questions that she needs answered to get her life together!  What could I possibly know about her life?
  • How could I possibly have the answers that she needs for her life?

Although I was asking these questions I was still becoming more and more uncomfortable with this whole situation and put it down to the appearance of low self worth and nervousness in this moment, but something was still not sitting right for me!

At this point I stopped, examined my thoughts, checked out my beliefs and did a quick run through on how each of my thoughts create a belief, and how those beliefs will create an experience and this is when I came up with the understanding of what I call today THE PEDESTAL SYNDROME!

This syndrome can be very easily explained through this example and these definitions.

The woman in this example placed me in the position where I had all of the answers that she needed to get her life together.  She was viewing me as the expert which can be considered a compliment in the highest regard, however, this compliment placed me in the position through her perception, of being on a pedestal.

The definition of pedestal really applies here:

  • Position of being exalted or admired a position which somebody admires another person so much that he r she thinks that person is perfect.  Encarta

Syndrome is:

  • Things that form a pattern a group of things or events that form a recognizable pattern especially of something that isundesirable. Encarta

This is when I quickly realized how my thoughts, beliefs and experiences have taught me that:

  • When someone places me on a pedestal it’s a long way to fall from the pedestal to the ground.
  • I will never have the answers from my perspective that another person may want to hear from their perspective.
  • What I know is no better that what another person knows!
  • These points keep me from falling or being pushed from the major heights of the imaginary pedestal that others place me on.
  • I look forward to stumbling and tripping over myself, my thoughts, beliefs and experiences rather than falling from the pedestal that some one else has created for me.
  • I am not perfect, but I am perfectly O.K. the way I am right now!
  • No one is perfect but they are perfectly O.K. the way they are right now!
  • I am me, a unique and gifted human being!

Every human being sees or observes their world through their own personal eyes, listens to or hears their world through their own person ears, and feels or senses their world through their personal knowledge, touch and intuition!

I therefore, can only assist people to find their own personal answers within them, and in this way I can stay away from Ego and Pedestal issues!

Peace, love, light and blessings

“White Eagle”

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